Asking for Referrals

Asking for referrals or introductions is a highly personal process that you can shape to the nature of your relationship with someone and your comfort in asking. 

Remember here at the beginning you may feel a little awkward but believe me if you’ve done the right things in investing in the relationships with people, most will already be set-up to want to do something “in-kind” for you to reciprocate. 

Also, take comfort that as you begin to ask, you’ll find the words that are most comfortable for you and these will mature over the weeks ahead and asking will become a normal part of you… and your relationships.

For myself, since I’ve been a “giver” into the relationship up until now, I don’t see asking now as a change because I’m going to continue to be a giver. As you’ll also see there are many ways to ask including a couple of my favorites:

1. Asking with a question as to whom your contact would like to meet where you could make an intro sets up for that same question to come “back at you.”

2. Then one of my more creative and amazingly most productive ways to ask is one where I ask if the person would like to go through a few names on my cell phone contact list to see if there are folks they’d like to meet… You already know what this causes the person to do when I make an offer like this.

Remember that the culture you’ve been building of “giving” will evolve into one of “giving and receiving…” and when you teach the people you’re giving to how they can give back, they will!